Taking a Break #celebratelu #sol15 3/7/15

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Ruth Ayres hosts a weekly celebration at her blog. I appreciate this weekly reminder to reflect on the positives and find reasons to celebrate. March is also the Slice of Life Challenge at Two Writing Teachers. I’m participating in the challenge only as a commenter, but I have been inspired by all the slices I’ve read this week and have decided to make each of my Saturday Celebration posts a Slice this month.


I did something today that I haven’t done in months: I took a break. I left the house before my son could wake up and demand my attention–for better or worse–for the rest of the day.

I thought long and hard about taking a break before I actually took it, because I knew there might be hell to pay later. It’s traumatizing for my son when he wakes up, calls out for his mom, and gets no answer.

But I also thought about how much better of a mom I could be to him for the rest of the weekend–for next week, for next month–if I had a few hours to myself first.

I thought about the break I was going to take last weekend–a trip to one of my favorite areas of the country, the Pacific Northwest, to attend a children’s literature conference featuring a couple of my favorite writers and–most and best of all–to meet Carrie Gelson. Canceled at the last minute due to my son’s need to have me at home.

I thought about the break I was going to take on Monday when he was at school–just a trip to Rapid City to spend the morning at a favorite coffee shop and browse the picture books at the independent bookstore. Canceled when my son decided he was too stressed to go to school and needed to spend the day with me instead.

That turned out to be a wonderful day. But it wasn’t a break.

As I stood in the kitchen this morning trying to decide whether I should follow through and leave for the morning, my husband asked me whose need was greater today. My son’s for me to be present or mine for some respite.

I felt guilty. I felt selfish.

Then I grabbed my writer’s notebook and a book on writing and headed out the door.

It’s an hour’s drive to Rapid City, across some of the most beautiful landscape in the country. The hills are on one side of the highway, the rolling prairie on the other. It’s a stark, elemental landscape that takes some getting used to. I saw deer, antelope, buffalo, many birds of prey, even a bald eagle. I love living in a place where I can see bald eagles. I listened to old episodes of my new favorite podcast, Books on the Nightstand, and plotted my morning. Bookstore first or library? Or coffee? Would it be wrong to have coffee twice?

At the bookstore, I read a dozen new picture books, bought the next Rick Riordan novel in the series my son and I are currently reading, and bought myself a novel for grown-ups that I’ve been wanting to read for awhile, The Storied Life of A.J. Fikry. I sat at the coffee shop and made book lists and started my new novel and drank very strong coffee and ate a very fattening sweet. I spent an hour browsing the shelves at the library, discovering a volume of poetry by Sarah Kay, a collection of essays by Donald Hall, the most recent Anne Lamott on audio, and several fanciful cookbooks that I won’t make anything from.

I came home mid-afternoon with Shakespeare in my head. Once more unto the breach. But I was saying it at least partly in jest. There is a reason parents of kids from hard places need respite. Last night I felt empty, all used up. This afternoon, I felt refreshed, ready to enter the fray, ready to be the mom my son needs.

My angry and hostile child met me at the door–only he wasn’t angry or hostile at all.

“I was so mad at you this morning,” he said. “But now I’m just glad to see you. I missed you so much.”






16 responses to “Taking a Break #celebratelu #sol15 3/7/15”

  1. Terrie's Tantalizing Tidbits #sol15 Avatar

    Sweet!!! It is very important for us to take time for ouselves. We are better for doing so!

  2. Kathleen Avatar

    I really related to this so much! I have a 4 year old son and a 2 year old daughter and teach 3rd grade so I feel like I rarely ever get time to myself. It is so luxurious when I do! I am glad you chose to take that time out for yourself and renew your spirits. I feel like I am a better mom when I do things that remind me of who I was before I was a mom. Thanks so much for sharing!

  3. gill94 Avatar

    Oh, how all moms need to take little retreats like yours! How wonderful that you took the leap to rejuvenate yourself today! Inspirational!

  4. Sharon Avatar

    Yes, moms need quiet reflection time too. We need time to reconnect with ourselves; it makes us better for everyone involved. I applaud you for taking time for yourself.

  5. Lee Avatar

    Sounds like the break was good for both of you. And it was certainly good for your readers. This is a beautiful slice and you’ve described a perfect day.

  6. Beth Shaum (@BethShaum) Avatar

    There you go again melting my heart. ❤

    And OMG The Storied Life of AJ Fikry? Amazing. One of my favorite books of all time.

  7. Jackie Avatar

    What a wonderful slice–so glad you took the time to take care of yourself.

  8. Michelle Brezek (@BigTimeLiteracy) Avatar

    Taking time for ourselves is so important, and what a blessing you received when you arrived home! 🙂

  9. carriegelson Avatar

    I was talking about you today – with Molly Idle actually (can you believe I had lunch with Molly Idle?) We were talking about the power of twitter and connecting and then meeting people face to face. And that if you have books and literacy in common, you are instantly connected. Oh – I should mention that Molly was at a Literacy conference here in Vancouver. I don’t just happen to have lunch with Molly Idle! We got to sit outside at lunch in the beautiful Vancouver sunshine. So glad you took this break. Glad it rolled out the way it did. With the coffee. And the books. And the boy at the door.

  10. MaryHelen Avatar

    Break are good. Taking time to refuel is necessary to keep going thru the norm and the hard.

  11. Crystal Avatar

    What a powerful slice. I may not have the same challenges, but today I took a break also. I went out of town to gather with book people, went to a library and a museum then met up with my son. Those times alone do revive us. When we get refreshed, I think we are better able to parent. I’m glad you both had space and it worked out so well.

  12. jennieb Avatar

    It is hard to take care of yourself, but I have been a much better mom since I have made more of an effort. I’m glad you enjoyed your day!

  13. readingtothecore Avatar

    Sometimes we need that time to recharge, to be “ready to enter the fray.” So glad that you made the time for yourself today, Elisabeth.

  14. jarhartz Avatar

    You are wise. You needed a break, and the very cool thing is that your son handled it. You took a risk, but it paid off beautifully! So glad you did. And, thanks for the new podcast recommendation.

  15. vgpratt Avatar

    Hey, Elisabeth! I have been swamped and haven’t kept up like I would like to, but I’m so glad I got “over here” to read this “slice”. I know how hard it is to feel torn between what you think you “ought to” or “should” do, and what you really need. Moms often put their own needs last– and continue to do so until it’s almost too late, and they are completely overwhelmed. I’m so glad you got the time you needed. It sounds like the drive was therapeutic, the coffee break and shopping heavenly (Oh how I LOVE time to wander through a bookstore without a time limit or agenda!), and you even were able to write a beautiful piece about the experience. I love how honest and direct your writing can be, and then how you can move into descriptions that put pictures into my head. Thanks for sharing your experience and your writing. Have a great week! 😉

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