Celebrate: Our Week with the Currys #celebratelu

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Ruth Ayres hosts a weekly celebration on her blog. I appreciate this invitation to look for the positives in my week.

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This week, I am celebrating the serendipitous and unexpected ways we learn about what it means to be a parent, a child, a family. This is a photo of Warriors point guard and NBA league MVP Stephen Curry with his daughter and his mom. We are big sports fans and have been following the NBA playoffs. We love watching the basketball games, but we just might love watching Curry with his family even more.

It all started a couple of weeks ago. Before a playoff game, the camera caught Curry on the sidelines bending down to accept a kiss from his two-year-old daughter.

“That’s his daughter!” my son yelled. “Look! That’s his daughter! She looks just like him!”

Curry’s wife was also at the game, and the camera cut to her in the stands several times.

“Oh! She looks like her mom too!”

My son loves to trace physical resemblances among family members. He is fascinated by the ways that shared genetics show on faces. Curry’s parents were sitting next to his wife, and so we had to pause the screen to discuss whether Curry looks more like his mom or his dad.

I thought it might end there, but mild interest in the Currys only grew this week after I showed my son the clip of Riley Curry stealing the show at a press conference. He has asked to watch clips from this press conference a couple of dozen times. I never intend to sit and watch again with him–I mean, I’ve seen it 20 times by now. But I find myself caught up in the sweet dynamic between Curry and his daughter. I still laugh every time she giggles when she first hears her father’s voice in the microphone and then complains, “That’s too loud, Daddy. Be quiet.”

My son was thrilled when Curry brought Riley to another press conference. We’ve watched this one a dozen times too, and he dissolves into giggles every time at her exaggerated yawn and curtain antics. He’s especially fascinated by the tender dynamic between father and daughter. He studies and comments on every touch and glance between them.

My son’s best learning, though, has come from Curry’s parents. They seem to be there for every game. The camera frequently cuts to them. Del always looks calm. Sonya always looks intense. My son is terrified that turning eighteen, graduating from high school, moving away, will mean the loss of his family. But there are Del and Sonya, showing up for every game, experiencing every win and loss with their son.

Steph took a really nasty fall in a game this week. It looked like he should have some broken bones or at least a concussion from it. After the fall, the camera cut to Sonya, who leaped to her feet. We could read her lips. Get up, baby. You’re okay. Shake it off, baby. My son’s head spun toward me, and I knew just what he was thinking.

I call him baby all the time, and at least a couple of times a week he challenges me on that.

“Will I still be your baby when I’m in college?”


“What about when I’m forty?”

Even then.

“Okay, what about when I’m eighty and you’re dead?”

And here is Steph Curry, a grown man with a wife and daughter. He’s the MVP of the league. And his mama stills calls him baby. He is still her baby.

The camera followed Curry leaving the court and heading down the hallway to the locker rooms for an examination.

“Where’s his mom?” my son cried. “He needs his mom!”

My husband and I exchanged a triumphant look.

Steph was out of the game for about an hour. When he did return, the camera zoomed in on him looking up into the stands and mouthing, “I’m okay.”

“Look!” my son said. “He’s telling his mom he’s okay.”

I’m not sure he understood why I couldn’t stop smiling.





15 responses to “Celebrate: Our Week with the Currys #celebratelu”

  1. elsie Avatar

    This brings tears to my eyes, as I’ve read of the difficulties you’ve experienced at sporting events with your son. Hopefully your son will adopt some of Curry’s behaviors related to acknowledging family. This is an athlete to watch.

    1. Elisabeth Ellington Avatar

      Elsie, every time we see an athlete at a professional event go over to their mom and hug her or mouth I love you Mom, my son looks at me meaningfully, LOL. Someday!

  2. carriegelson Avatar

    He needs his Mom. Exactly. Love this whole post to the moon and back.

  3. Beth Shaum (@BethShaum) Avatar

    Note to self: never read Elisabeth’s blog in public — will always end up crying.

    I should know better by now.

    1. Elisabeth Ellington Avatar

      Sorry, Beth!! At least these are kind of happy tears, right?

  4. Linda Baie Avatar

    Oh Elisabeth, you need to post a pic of you smiling! No matter what we do, it’s those ‘other’ things that teach the children too. How great for your son to see a true example of what you’ve been telling him all along, always your baby!

    1. Elisabeth Ellington Avatar

      And a true example taken from what he cares most about–sports!

  5. cvarsalona Avatar

    Great piece and I love those moments between Stephen Curry and his daughter on camera. It is endearing to see the relationship broadcasted and your own family relationship. I agree with Linda that we should have seen your smile.

    1. Elisabeth Ellington Avatar

      I love those moments too, Carol. He’s focused on doing his job and answering the reporters’ questions but he’s also attending to her and her needs. The media response to these press conferences has been interesting–lots of “Riley stole the show, she’s so cute” but also the inevitable pushback of “children don’t belong at press conferences and why isn’t he controlling her more?” We Americans certainly have a lot of anxiety about how children need to be controlled! Curry’s interactions with her show such a healthy respect and understanding for who his daughter is as a person and how she needs to explore the world and her place in it.

  6. Ramona Avatar

    What a post! I smiled all the way through. And your son’s words: “He needs his mom.” Isn’t it lovely when someone else helps us teach our children? You need to find a way to share this post with Stephen Curry.

    1. Elisabeth Ellington Avatar

      Thanks, Ramona! I’m sure it won’t surprise you to know that my son looks up to professional athletes, so we love stories of athletes with their families, dealing well with adversity, doing good things for others. I’m constantly searching for good stories to share with him.

  7. jarhartz Avatar

    This is so insightful Elisabeth. The read you have on your kid is amazing. We parents are torn letting our babies grow up and away, but we forget how our children must feel as well.

    PS That Riley is just too cute! And she is the spitting image of him. Genetics are something to marvel at!

    1. Elisabeth Ellington Avatar

      It’s really interesting to experience some of these things with my son, Julieanne, because he is much more aware and concerned than birth kids seem to be. I NEVER thought about that kind of stuff–growing up, leaving home–and I certainly never considered that it might be hard for my mom. My son is VERY conscious of it–for him and for me. It’s incredible how much Riley looks like Curry!

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