10 Things I’m Trying to Get To 30/31 #sol23

Here’s one of the many things about ADHD: I set goals and make plans for myself, and then promptly forget all about them. It can be maddening to struggle so much with following through on intentions, so I’ve learned to be gentle. It’s fun to make the plans and set the goals and intend the intentions. Maybe I will follow through. Maybe I won’t. No hard feelings either way. Even though I don’t always reach my goals, I still love to dream about those things I’m trying to get to:

break up with social media once and for all
visit an art museum or stop for street art once a month
publish a blog post at least once a month
allow my hair to go gray
buy one book each month from an indie bookstore
eat more salads and vegetables
trap and neuter the rest of the feral cat colony
sign up for an online art class
complete three 30-day writing challenges in my notebook
hang pictures in my bedroom and living room

What are you trying to get to this year?

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This post was inspired by Trina’s 10 Things I’m Trying to Get To (and I borrowed one of the items on her list too!).

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March 30, 2023

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Elisabeth Ellington

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12 responses to “10 Things I’m Trying to Get To 30/31 #sol23”

margaretsmn

March 30, 2023

I can relate! Some of the things on your list I have been able to get to, like allowing my hair to go gray. It’s all done and I feel good about it. I like the one about visiting an art museum. I was able to do that a few weeks ago with my grandchildren and now I’m planning a field trip for my students. Hold on to your list. You can do it, except maybe the feral cat one. I have a stray and I haven’t yet tried to catch him.

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mschiubookawrites

March 30, 2023

Such a relatable slice and a reminder to give myself grace. Perhaps writing it down and publishing it will be the difference. I’m trying to get out of my reading rut and finish one of the ten books I’ve started.

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arjeha

March 30, 2023

Maybe goals won’t be reached, but it is good to have them as a guiding factor in our lives. Also, there is nothing wrong with changing goals along the way if necessary. Good luck with reaching yours.

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aggiekesler

March 30, 2023

What I love about this slice is your honesty. “Maybe I will follow through. Maybe I won’t. No hard feelings either way.” I’m much the same. I have these big goals…I even go so far as to write them down and start them, but then most are abandoned and never accomplished. sigh…

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Susan Apps-Bodilly

March 30, 2023

Thank you for this list! I am a big list-maker too. Do you ever do something first, write it down, and check it off? The checking-off part feels so good!

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WOWilkinson

March 30, 2023

Sounds like a great list. I tend to make too many lists, give myself too many things to get done. We start Spring Break tomorrow, and I’m going to resist making a to-do list for as long as I can. Once I make the list, I feel like I need to work, work, work.

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Amy Crehore

March 30, 2023

It’s refreshing to give that grace to yourself. I started to call my goals “intentions” so that I can be softer to myself if I don’t achieve them. I’ve been struggling to break up with social media for a long time — this month I’ve deleted the apps off my phone and it’s been a big help. Baby steps.

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EugeniaKouts

March 30, 2023

I appreciate your line about “no hard feelings” if things don’t get done. I need to remember that for myself.

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Shari Daniels

March 31, 2023

Oh my goodness, I think I have written every ONE of those goals down in my notebook before. What if we took both of our ADHD heads and put them together and checked off those boxes! I think we could tackle them! AND let’s add: Meet other writing friends in real life. 🙂

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Trina

March 31, 2023

I have been allowing my hair to go gray, too. By the way, I believe that I initially go this format from you!

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evarkaplan

March 31, 2023

What a great, realistic list! My gray hair slice this March got the most comments of the month! I think it’s a hot topic amoungst women! Quitting social media…can you do it? My sister is a watercolorist and she’s taking an art class learning how to create computer art. Her pieces are amazing. So many fun things to do… and so little time! I hope you write each month because I’ll miss reading your slices!

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karpenglish

March 31, 2023

I am going to share your slice with Miles in the morning, because he is still struggling with what coping with ADHD looks like. I think it will cheer him that other people struggle with making plans for things they really care about and then not quite getting around to them. He has not yet mastered the self-forgiveness, or the sense that one can always re-plan for another time. It is also very helpful for non-ADHD me, who sometimes wishes that he would follow through with his enthusiasms, instead of (for example) trying to wander off in the middle of baking a cake. Thank you for sharing your perspective.

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